I have some tough words to share with you today and for some of you, it will not be the easiest thing to read or accept. Believe me, if we are going to be successful in growing our confidence, we all may need to make a real positive change in our lives when it comes to embracing the spirit of complaining.
Complaining Does You No Good
I get it. It feels good to complain and let off a little steam from time to time. I’m not saying you should never complain and I’m not saying that there isn’t a time and a place when you should launch a legitimate complaint. What I’m trying to tell you is that it’s often a waste of time to whine and complain about your situation.
Complaining without action and a desire to bring about change does you no good and actually hurts your self-confidence. When you focus on complaining, you’re embracing the role of a victim and that’s not a powerful role at all. It’s a passive, accepting what’s dealt to you, kind of role.
Here’s What I Want You to Focus on Instead
The good thing when you stop complaining is that you have a lot of time and energy for more productive things. Instead complaining, I want you to channel that energy into taking action and making a difference.
Instead of complaining, we need to assess those areas that we are concerned about, and then create a strategy or system to combat it. This may be challenging, but when we see the need to complain, we need to tackle the issue in a proactive way. We need to make sure that once we develop an action plan, it is important that we have consequences in place when we don’t follow through.
Taking action and doing something about the circumstances or things you don’t like is very empowering. Think back on a time when you’ve taken a stand or done something to change your situation instead of complaining about it. I bet your confidence went through the roof once you started talking action. There was a sense of achievement once you implemented the task and got it done.
From here on out, I want you to think of complaining as a clue to take action. When you hear yourself complain about something, or when you start thinking about complaining, stop and ask yourself what you can do about it.
What can you do to change and improve the situation? Not only is it much more productive use of your time and energy than whining and complaining, it is also a great way to build your courage and self-confidence.
Homework: When you start thinking about complaining, stop and ask yourself what you can do about it. Stop and ask yourself what you can do about it. What can you do to change and improve the situation?