When you are struggling with negative confession and negative thnking, I want to share another strategy with you. It’s something I use regularly that helps me shift my mindset. And it never fails to bring things back in perspective and makes me take action.
It’s simple, but very powerful. Here’s what you do:
Ask yourself: “What’s The Worst That Could Happen?”
Sit down and really put some thought into this. Imagine everything and anything that could possibly go wrong. Use your imagination and go all out. It may seem counterproductive at first, but there’s method to the madness.
When you lay it all out, you force yourself to face the worst possible outcome. One important reason why this simple little mental exercise is important is that it makes you realize that the worst outcome isn't all that bad and something you can live with.
Just as important is that you discover that this “horrible” outcome isn't terribly likely. While you’re thinking things over, chances are that you remember all the things you have to gain from taking action.
Even if everything doesn't go perfect, chances are that you’ll get something out of taking the risk to do something. You’ve proven to yourself, that at least you tried. This realization alone will give you a boost of confidence, or at least the energy and desire to do something.
You may be wondering why imagining the worst possible outcome is such a good confidence and courage strategy. Here’s why it works:
We’re More Scared Of The Unknown Than The Worst Possible Scenario
On a psychological level, there’s nothing we fear more than the unknown. This is why this strategy works so well. By thinking about and imagining the worst possible outcome we take away the element of the unknown.
When that happens things suddenly don’t look nearly as bad anymore. We know what we’re facing. We know what it will take to overcome the obstacle or dig ourselves back out of the hole. We can start to come up with an action plan for recovery. We do this all the time when something bad or unexpected happens. Why not tap into the same idea to gain the courage to “try it anyway”?
That’s your new strategy for the day. Whenever you try to talk yourself out of doing something because of an undefined fear, or when you’re simply reluctant to do something, take some action or try something new, ask yourself “what’s the worst that could happen”.
Then make your peace with that worst case outcome and go do it anyway. You’ll be pleasantly surprised to find how well this works and keeps you encouraged to keep moving forward.
Homework: What is the worst thing that could happen as you attempt today's One Big Thing? What will it take to overcome that obstacle?